From time to time, we should ask ourselves, “When was the last time you genuinely felt proud of yourself?” The last time you felt truly happy with your achievements, with how far you have come, with how well you are doing?
Was it the day you got hired for your dream job? Or the time you survived that job interview that you were so nervous about?
Was it when you were promoted or was it that time you when you were recognized for doing an excelled job at work? Or that time when you were given a performance incentive?
How about the first time you traveled solo? Or the first time you flew an international flight?
Or you could not even remember the last time you did?
Some of us get preoccupied with school, work, life, and everything in between that we oftentimes forget to recognize our achievements and acknowledge that we are doing well despite how hard it is to strive on a daily basis.
We never fail to admire other people for their promotions and awards and vacations, but we overlook ourselves.
It is not wrong to feel good about yourself.
The truth is, no one knows and sees that real struggles that you are putting up with except you. On the outside, people may think and assume that you are doing fine, but they are not aware of how you feel emotionally. This is why there is no better person in this world that should recognize your hardships and achievements except YOU. Be happy for yourself because you are doing great. Don’t be too hard on yourself if things do not go as planned. You are doing well and you are so brave for making it this far.
It is not selfish to make yourself a priority.
While there is nothing wrong in putting others first, you should also remember that it is necessary to be kind to yourself. Never saying no to other people will eventually take its toll on you. So what if you take that much needed vacation leave? So what if you take a raincheck on a long overdue meetup with your friends because you want to stay at home and rest? So what if you refuse to help someone because you had so much going on in your own personal life as well? Do not feel bad for these things, because you are a human being capable of having emotions and getting exhausted. You should always pause and remember to be kind and gentle with yourself; that it is okay to prioritize yourself first.
It is more than okay to celebrate little victories.
There is power in small wins. Your daily victories, no matter how small, should be recognized. Because progress is still progress, no matter how small. It just means you are on your way to something big. Every once in a while, celebrate your victories, no matter how small. Celebrate your progress. Think about how every time we commit a minor mistake, we always feel bad about it. On the other hand, when we accomplish a small goal, we almost never feel good about it. Do you see how eager we are to punish ourselves for a mistake and yet very slow to celebrate an achievement? Your progress is important, so take a moment to celebrate it. You will be surprised at how it can motivate you to keep going.
Just because you fail to meet other people’s expectations does not mean that you are a failure. This kind of mentality can ruin your journey to wellness completely. So, take time to pause, re-evaluate your life and goals, and acknowledge both your mistakes and achievements. Remember that you are brave for making it this far. You are a warrior and your body, mind, and heart are your weapons. Take good care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. And remember: it is okay to be proud of yourself.